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12:59am 24/12/2005
 
 
LocaKitty
So much for leaving work at 11 tonight. At 10:30 we got 3, yes THREE, calls for deliveries and the other driver had just finished running his end of day stuff. So, I got to take them all. I didn't get back to the store until 11:30. *sigh* I was greeted with some dishes and the cook telling me that the other driver didn't bother taking out the garbage. Nice.

I had a beer with a few of the people there, including HAM, and I realized that even though I bother trying to get to know these people better as people not just coworkers, I am met with resistance. So, I decided to stop bother trying. Don't get me wrong, I'll still be friendly and pleasant, but I won't bother trying to invite people into my life outside of work. There's no point, obviously. This goes for HAM as well.

I don't know, this seems very much unlike me. I have always tried to make people feel comfortable and welcome and to know that they can come to me with anything and I'll be available, but I get this sense of closed-offedness (yeah, it's not a word, but it's all I can think of right now) from them. Maybe I'm just being angsty (it *is* LJ after all).

What I said earlier still applies though: I am happy I moved here. I've met some really great people and hope to continue to have good times with them. Maybe I just miss the camaraderie that I had with the people I worked with back in high school and college. Then again, I worked with those people for over a year, maybe I just haven't given it enough time.

I'm still going to pull back my efforts, however. It's mentally exhausting and I just can't spare the reserve energies that I had stored in my brain. I think if I had insurance, I'd go see a therapist. Just to have someone listen and tell me how to fix the problems. There's other stuff going on in my head, but I don't know if I'm ready to share them with all you people :) Not that I don't love you all, dear readers, but some things just have to remain locked away, at least for now.

Or maybe i just need to get laid. ;)
mood: deep thoughtsdeep thoughts
 
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 jemesuisperdue
 
01:18pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Lost on The Beltway
I probably use LJ for more of a sounding board than I should when things annoy me. Its the second best thing to resovle problems (just seeing it in print helps...(having your friends respond helps to). The best frustration reliever is going uphill on your bike. One of the girls in my club said: We get our great ideas on a bike not a toilet! Sometimes we just need an outlet...the bike will become more of an outlet when it gets warmer than the 30s at night. I can't cycle in the 30s. It gives me hives.

I miss working with lots of poeple too.
 
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 footnotefetish
 
03:42pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Why We Cite: Sunflower State
Imagine if you combined a toilet with an exercise bike. That would be the formula for pure genius!

I guess I'm the opposite with LiveJournal. I rant, sometimes very angrily, about politics, but I try to write about the positive things in my life. I think by doing that, I focus more on what's going right, instead of dwelling on what's going badly.
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 jemesuisperdue
 
09:20pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Lost on The Beltway
Good idea...I'm going to add that to my list of goals for next year.
 
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 footnotefetish
 
12:42am 25/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Why We Cite: Happy Times
Are you talking about my first idea, or the second one? If you're talking about the first one, I want to see it when it's finished. I promise I'll leave the seat down.
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 footnotefetish
 
03:52pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Why We Cite: Happy Times
I think some people prefer the anonymity of a "modular" relationship (to steal a term from that quasi-intellectual Steven Toffler). Maybe it's better, in their minds, to limit things to being co-workers who hang out sometimes, instead of being friends. They might see it as better than risking the gossip that might follow if they really let their co-workers into their lives. Alternately, they might have a limited capacity for being reminded of work when they're not at work.

Back when I used to work at Wild Oats, I always met a lot of like-minded co-workers (AOL Keyword: granola), but I never became good friends with any of them.

You probably just need to meet friends outside of work. You could become a LiveJournal slut like I have. You might also be right about needing to get laid, but that seems to be a problem that the majority of my friends have right now. Fortunately, now that vibrators and jar openers have both been invented, women can go long periods of time without men.
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 jemesuisperdue
 
09:13pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Lost on The Beltway
How do you have sex with a jar opener?
 
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 locakitty
 
09:18pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
LocaKitty
Very carefully.
 
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 footnotefetish
 
12:45am 25/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Why We Cite: Happy Times
Word. There's nothing worse than getting sensitive tissue stuck in those gears. Damn!

Seriously, though, to explain what I meant to jemesuisperdue, I was joking that men are only necessary for having sex and opening jars. speranzosa thinks they're also handy for opening doors.
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 ex_benlinus
 
04:16pm 25/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Hol;y shit. I honestly didn't get it when you explained this last night. Cold medicine really makes me an idiot.
 
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 locakitty
 
04:17pm 25/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
LocaKitty
It makes most people not so bright :)
 
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 parilous
 
05:10pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
Paril
I agree with what Matt said -- some people are more comfortable with modular relationships. Until recently, you would never find me saying anything bad about work around coworkers; and even now, I won't say stuff around certain people because of their relationship with the bosses.

I have a couple "friends groups" IRL (e.g., coworkers, old friends, ampf friends, LJ friends). You are the most versatile friend among those groups. You can hang out with coworker groups (both Peace and Erika), you can hang out with LJ people (obviously), and you can hang out with the old friends group.

I don't know many people like that at all. I think you're unique in that way, in your approach to be laid-back and open to new people from new backgrounds, with new sets of experiences.

So, don't take it hard when you run into resistance. People are probably more like me (compartmentalizing) than you (flexible).
 
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 ex_benlinus
 
05:55pm 24/12/2005 (UTC)
 
 
I always seem to end up working with awesome people, but for some reason I can't bring myself to be real friends with them. It's always "Hey, we should get a beer sometime", and then I blow it off. I guess I worry that I'd be pushing my luck by trying to have a good "working" relationship AND a good friendship with the same people.
It's a little twisted I guess.
I dunno. There must have been something that happened over the span of 25 different jobs in 17 years that caused me to start thinking that way. In any case, I wouldn't take it personally. You're pretty fukkin' cool, and I can't imagine anyone making a conscious decision to not be your friend.
 
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